I’ve been feeling and thinking about this for a while: that I’m really lucky.

Everything has fallen into place in my relationship life: I’m out to my family, they love my partner, his family loves me. I feel incredibly supported.

This wasn’t always the case. When I first came out to my parents in 2018, it did not go well, particularly with my mother. Gradually, with some work on my part and some effort on hers, things eventually turned around. I continue to enjoy her support today.

Since then, my partner had come over for food, took my parents out for dinner and celebrated my Dad’s birthday with us. On Mother’s Day this year, his family and mine even had a combined Mother’s Day celebration. It was loads of fun and cheer.

Some of you would also have known that my partner and his family had been staying with my parents and I for about three months now.

Imagine: two gay men with their respective families under one roof, in Singapore. How many homosexual couples can have that?

Of course, adjustment hadn’t been easy for everyone involved. I’m happy to report that only 10% of the issues that cropped up were related to our sexual identities. The other 90% were ridiculously domestic: “Aiyo, so many things!” “Why this thing put here, not there?” “Why the cats puke again?” “Whose turn is it to clear the cat poo?” etc.

In the three months, both our mothers had struck up a friendship, exchanged cooking tips and household hacks. Every morning is a cacophony of Teochew pleasantries and cats meowing for attention.

In other words, things had been beautifully mundane. I know I’m living and realising a dream that isn’t available to most homosexual couples. I shared this when I had my story reenacted in a Playback performance by @shoestheatre : that I feel incredibly blessed and lucky. I truly am.

Tomorrow, my partner and his family would be moving back home. I think I’d miss having them around at my place with my parents.

I have no idea what’s lying ahead for all of us embroidered into this tapestry. But I choose to treasure and enjoy this moment of bliss and blessing.